Sex for the first time
Having sex for the first time is, or should be, a wonderful experience. It’s true that the lack of experience and a dozen other things all conspire to make it less than amazing in terms of sheer sex, but the thing that matters most is the experience itself. There is always a first time for the body and a first time for the soul. Some people have it both at the same time, while others get to the physical act before finding somebody they really care about. Still, anything is fair in love and war and people should be free to do as they please as long as they don’t bother anybody else.
Pick a place where you are not likely to be bothered for some time. The car is OK for necking, but should not be used for sex; it’s no longer hip to do it in a car anyway. So I’d say that a beds or sofas are still the best places for sex, especially for first time sex. Just make sure that the bed or the sofa is located in a room where you are not likely to be disturbed. Taking a shower together before the main event could add a lot to the intimacy and sheer sexiness of the moment.
The biggest problem every person has when engaging in sex for the first time is the fact that he or she does not know how to please the other and only has a vague idea of how to get pleasure in return. This is why everything is so awkward and people get embarrassed and stressed. However, this is exactly what they should not do. Take your time to explore her or his body and guide the other’s hands to the pleasure spots of your own body. This is what sex is all about anyway.
Naturally, the number one worries are “What if I can’t get it up?” for the men and “Does it hurt?” for the ladies. Nothing could be more embarrassing for a young man than to see that the penis that used to stand to attention at the sight of every pretty girl has decided to take some time off at the exact moment when the owner needed it the most. As for girls, many have probably heard a lot of unpleasant first time experiences and are more than a little apprehensive about the whole thing. The best answer for both partners is to go slow and have a lot of patience with each other.
Nobody is a good lover on the first try. Guys worry about not being able to achieve erection, ejaculating too soon, not being big enough and not pleasing their partners. Ladies worry about the possible pain, the birth control pills and about not achieving orgasm despite the best efforts of their partners. Such is life. The first time should be cherished as your entry into a different world and your first attempt to share your intimacy with somebody else. If the results are less then spectacular, it’s OK. You have a whole life ahead of you to sharpen your skills.
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